Thursday, December 14, 2006




Matthew 19:5"...For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh." the day will come when your child will "leave" your home. This is a painful experience for moms and dads, but it is the will of God.

I have no problem with this at all


God has a purpose for that child you are rearing. Children belong to God, lent to us for a little while to love and train to glorify God with their lives. If they fail to do the will of God, we, to a degree, have failed to do the will of God.

Also agree with this.


God said for this "cause" shall a man leave his father and mother. God has a "cause " and "pupose" for our children. For most young people marriage, child rearing and building a godly heritage for their children is one of God’s purposes for them leaving home. God also desires to use your child as a soulwinner to win lost souls to Christ. They must "leave" home to accomplisth these purposes fully.

Once again he is only use half of a verse. Here is the entire verse. Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? The only reason for a young person to leave home is marriage. There is no way around this. This is what is taught in the verse.


It is our job as parents to rear children who are equipped to do God’s purposes. Your home is to be a launching pad, not a final destination. Our task is to give our children their cargo (knowledge etc...) and send them off on their mission. We must teach our children to be independent. They begin their lives dependent upon mom and dad. we are their protector, comforter, need supplier, everything! But they must be trained to make it without us. They must be taught about Jesus and salvation; dependence they once placed upon us must be transferred to Jesus Christ. There are also some things they must learn to do themselves; they must be taught responsibility --from putting toys away, to dressing themselves. It all prepares them to leave an cleave. What preparations are you making to help your child become independent from you and dependent upon God? The training must begin early. Let them go to camp for a week. In high school they will play sports and have friends (make sure they are good ones). These activities outside the home are healthy and help develop your child’s independence.

We must train them to be DEPENDANT on God, not Independant. My child’s peer group is his siblings, all of whom are being trained for the same purpose, the same goal in mind. A goal that I as a parent have set for them, not some camp, sports coach, or teacher. As a parent I have the responsibility to make sure that my child’s "Good friends" are Godly, the only way I can do this is to train them myself. Children at school become dependant on their peer group not on God.


The problem with homeschooling is that it retards this process. Homeschooling parents are very slow to allow their children to go to camps etc., anything outside the home is looked at as competition for time or love. Parents become overanxious about kids going anywhere over ten minutes from home. The problem came when the parent should have kissed their child good-bye and sent them off to school, they kept them at home. When the child should have begun the first step in "leaving" or cutting mamma’s apron strings, mommy kept them at home and tied the strings even tighter by investing every hour, every day together over endearing mamma’s heart to the kids, making it nearly impossible to "let go." This process only gets worse with age, and soon the children catch on, and the best Christian kids find themselves torn between serving God and staying at home, a battle their parents created. "Leave" and "cleave" are God’s words. They are in the best interest of your children. Your children must be allowed to leave home, do God’s will, marry, have a family and win others to Christ, Whether near home or on the other side of the world if God desires. You must prepare them to leave and cleave It is a part of their spiritual and physical survival and success. A good Christian school will help you and your children in the process.

The only times we see children leaving the home in "Traditional, Bible times" was the boys went to synagogue, but the girls stayed home. The boys only went to synagogue school till they were old enough to learn a trade. The girls stayed in the home until they were married. So, "Cutting mama’s apron strings" is not a Biblical illustration, for anything other than marriage. In Malachi we see the hearts of the children turning to the "FATHERS" so, if I am doing as I should in homeschooling, than the "Apron strings" would be Papa’s, not Mamma’s. I agree that we are to teach them to leave and cleave, but it is my respoinsibility as a parent to decide the best manner of teaching. Homeschooling children who do not do alot of activities outside of the home are for the most part from large families. Who needs to go out when you can do the same activities with your own family. And to say that the BEST Christian children are having trouble with deciding to serve God our parents tells me that homeschoolers must be doing something right for them to be turning out children with a burning desire for serve the Lord. Once again I will state the only time a child leaves home is to get married. Not School, camp, or even Bible college.


HandsNHearts said...

Hmmm...someone had some pretty strong opinions, heh? I thought you answered them perfectly...Scripture is Scripture. Certainly no two ways around that...well, not if you tuly believe the Lord said what He meant and meant what He said!

Wonderful sharing! I do hope this wasn't a personal "attack" on your homeschooling!


jackiebridgen said...

As we have had a LOT of this in our church. this guy says your children are wanted to win souls, but in the last bit you showed, he says you should be sending them to a christian school. So either he wants them witnessing in the public school system, or he wants them 'safely' tucked up in christian school. Which is it?

Plus his view is totally, totally Americacentric. 'If you have a good separated Baptist church and they have a school...' yeh, well. If. Not in this country, friend, cos there is no such thing. And as God is the same everywhere and forever ....

Your argument is good, really logical and calm. I think I would be getting hotter under the collar! LOL

gokings13 said...

What is Maturation?

Is that crying uncontrollably at 13 when the boy you like doesn't like you?

Is that when 13 year old boys share a pornographic magazine out on the playground at school?

Is that when you can find the secret hiding spot at church and take your girlfriend there for a little kissy face?

Oh, it must be when all the boys are naked in the locker room *being boys and doing boy things*.

Or it could be in the girls bath room, where *girls learn their places in the pecking order*.

How silly of me! My poor home school kids. They are so immature. :)


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