Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Reverence your Own Husband


Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

While counseling with a married lady she asked how she should reverence her husband if he was not accepting of her physical touches. I asked where she got the idea that reverence was physical. I guess her pastor told her that to reverence your husband was to be physical with him. I was shocked. I had never heard of such a thing and told her so.

That made me look up this verse and see what it actually said. I was so excited to see I was not wrong. to reverence, venerate, to treat with deference or reverential obedience

What is reverential obedience to each husband is going to be different. My DH is , to me so different. When we were dating he came to my home and saw how clean my mother liked her home kept. I went to his home and saw that his mother did not care what kind of a mess her home was. No disrespect meant to my MIL but I did not know they even had a piano until someone unloaded all of the junk off of it so they could play it. Well, coming into the marriage we both thought something different about the cleaning of the house. I wanted to be laid back and he wanted a clean home. To him I can say I love you and be affectionate but if the floors are "crunchy" it means nothing. If I have vacuumed all of the floors before he gets home he knows that I love him and reverence him.

Each wife needs to find the ways her husband wants things done. It may not be a clean floor. It will be something different for each man. But do what he wants. That is the whole point of reverencing your husband. Discern his heart and do what you know would make him happy. And do it as unto the Lord.




FoggyMountainFarm said...

Very well said, Michelle!

Thanks for sharing this.



babysteps said...

Amen sister. Likewise husbands are to do similar things...oh, say like.... love their wives as Christ loved the Church...hmmm that means giving himself up for her...hmmm I see a pattern here. Each gives to the other...Then the two become one. My DH and I try and follow Philp. 2:-5 as our model for marriage and how we treat people..."being like minded having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interest of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus..." If its the floors he is concerned about then you place that first, if it's the bills your concerned about he places that first. Placing one another first is one of the keys to being in the same attitude as Jesus.

I will step down from my soap box now. In Jesus Love, babysteps

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